I like to think of myself as someone who doesnt care what others have to say about what I am wearing… I know what I like to wear, I know what makes *me* feel confident. If I ask your opinion, then I want your opinion, if I dont ask, I DONT WANT TO KNOW.
But we all know that person(s) who decides to give you a wardrobe make over whether you want it or not. I know a few. I dont handle criticism that well. I usually want to snot said person in the face and then tell them everything I can possibly think of that is wrong with them… Im pretty rational like that…
On the weekend I wore my new leopard print loafers that my amazing housemate gave me. I love them. I have wanted a pair for so long. I thought that there was no better way of wearing them for the first time then to a date… Well… The date wasnt crash hot but the final straw was when the gentleman I was dining with commented on the shoes in a less that complimentary way… I brushed it off (read: couldnt find my knuckle dusters in my handbag quick enough) and moved on, but I will promptly ignore his calls when he wants to organise date #2.
So, basically what I am asking is, how do you handle cristicism? Whether it is in relation to your clothes, hair, handbag or shoes, what do you say when someone disses your choice? Do you stop wearing those items?
If I really liked something I wouldn’t stop wearing it but their words might make me sit back and think about how the item looks on me. If they simply said something was weird or uncool I wouldn’t care but if they said something like it was too baggy or too short or something like that I probably would take stock once I had calmed down and think about if they were right.
As I get older the fewer fucks I give about people’s opinions on my cclothes but I used to care a hell of a lot more and if someone had commented on my clothing when I was a teenager it would have sent me off into a depressive spiral of self loathing…. to be fair though almost everything did.
Anti-loafer guy sounds like a douche though, leopard print loafers are awesome.
Yep, move on…no date #2 for that loser!
Haha, thanks Mum!
I used to handle criticism really badly – any comments would see me racing around wildly later trying to re-create myself and never do that particular look again. As I have aged, I have grown more comfortable in my own skin. I know better now what works and what doesn’t (for me), and if someone criticises my look (and I didn’t ask for their opinion), I simply let the comment slide off. It does make me rethink how much time I want to spend with that person though. If they feel so strongly about my appearance that they feel the need to try and rain on how awesome I am as a whole person, then I really don’t need that kind of BS in my life.
Leopard print loafers sound fantastic. If someone can’t see that you and your loafers are an awesome addition to their life, it’s their loss gorgeous!
It is 100% his loss for sure, Amy is every kind of fabulous.
I agree with your sentiment regarding what kind of people feel they need to comment on your clothes. Are they really your friend?
*blushes* Maybe I should just date you Bec? Probably be far more satusfying. 😉
You are right, both of you, is a friend someone who makes you feel awful about what you are wearing??? I mean, I would let Cat and Bec be like ‘Dude! Really?’ but anyone else id smack to next week!!!
Everyone needs leopard print loafers!!! 😀